You must keep in mind that every time you complain about something, whether silently to yourself or out loud to others, you tie yourself more firmly to it. There is a far more better approach, and that is to propose a positive alternative, and to set about putting it into practice. While a complaint merely reinforces what is wrong, a positive alternative sets about to actually change the situation for the better.
Complaints, because of their negative nature, are usually met with some degree of resistance and defensiveness.
Positive alternative, on the other hand, tend to more naturally be met with cooperation and appreciation.
The next time you have the strong urge to complain, stop and ask yourself what it is really want. Do you simply want to complain or do you want to do something that's going to improve the situation?
Most complaints stem from a genuine desire to improve the situation, but usually the complaint itself is not enough to do that. So go beyond the complaint and use that energy to truly make a positive difference.
Rather than aggravating a bad difficult situation with your complaints, transform it with your positive thoughts, ideas and actions.
The main aim here is to solve the problem and concentrate your efforts on this.
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