You must keep in mind that every time you complain about something, whether silently to yourself or out loud to others, you tie yourself more firmly to it. There is a far more better approach, and that is to propose a positive alternative, and to set about putting it into practice. While a complaint merely reinforces what is wrong, a positive alternative sets about to actually change the situation for the better.
Complaints, because of their negative nature, are usually met with some degree of resistance and defensiveness.
Positive alternative, on the other hand, tend to more naturally be met with cooperation and appreciation.
The next time you have the strong urge to complain, stop and ask yourself what it is really want. Do you simply want to complain or do you want to do something that's going to improve the situation?
Most complaints stem from a genuine desire to improve the situation, but usually the complaint itself is not enough to do that. So go beyond the complaint and use that energy to truly make a positive difference.
Rather than aggravating a bad difficult situation with your complaints, transform it with your positive thoughts, ideas and actions.
The main aim here is to solve the problem and concentrate your efforts on this.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
SOME SECRETS OF SUCCESS
Don't be shortsighted that you take unreasonable risks and waste your life chasing get rich-quick schemes.
Don't be cautious that you're unwilling to take any risks.
Don't think, "What must I do to become rich?" "What am I doing wrong that's keeping me from already rich."
Learn how to take informed risks.
You read a book from beginning to end, but you build a life from the end to the beginning.
You decide what you want from life and then develop a plan to get it.
To avoid becoming road kill on life's financial highway, don't race into things with little thought, like the hare, or move too slowly and indecisively, like the tortoise.
Learn to distill positive lessons from otherwise bad experiences.
Nuture the good things and learn from the bad things.
Take personal responsobility for both your successes and failures.
Commit to the three Ds of success. Discipline, Dedication, and Desire.
The discipline to take the steps necessary to achieve success, the dedication to stick with it until you succeed, and a desire for a better life that is strong enough to keep you inspired.
Don't be cautious that you're unwilling to take any risks.
Don't think, "What must I do to become rich?" "What am I doing wrong that's keeping me from already rich."
Learn how to take informed risks.
You read a book from beginning to end, but you build a life from the end to the beginning.
You decide what you want from life and then develop a plan to get it.
To avoid becoming road kill on life's financial highway, don't race into things with little thought, like the hare, or move too slowly and indecisively, like the tortoise.
Learn to distill positive lessons from otherwise bad experiences.
Nuture the good things and learn from the bad things.
Take personal responsobility for both your successes and failures.
Commit to the three Ds of success. Discipline, Dedication, and Desire.
The discipline to take the steps necessary to achieve success, the dedication to stick with it until you succeed, and a desire for a better life that is strong enough to keep you inspired.
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